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How does psoriasis affect your sex life?

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Theme Sex and Psoriasis

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78 responses

Graham
Graham @grum

Well....I do find that a flaky psoriatic willy is rather off putting to the ladies of my acquaintance... As is my flaky bum and belly button...Let alone all the "normal places"..Ergo they are not of my acquaintance now...

You did ask....


Graham
Graham @grum

Oh and the post coital vacuuming of the bits from the bed/dining table/sofa/ etc...Thats a bit off putting too


Jack
Jack @psoriasisblob

Solution, do it outside! No need to vacuum in bushes and fields and forests.


Jessica
Jessica @saldije12

It doesn't! hahhahahahahahhahaha!


Liz
Liz @lizzi

Artful shame how I look so I don't


Jack
Jack @psoriasisblob

Luckily it doesn't as mine is pretty tame nowadays. Ain't nothing getting in the way of sexy times!


Jessica
Jessica @saldije12

Lol my sex life is non existent but psoriasis has nothing to do with it lol


allan
allan @allanncaz

have not got the, energy ,urge , or inclination anymore .but I do have 11 brothers and sisters ,5 children 5 grandchildren 4 great grandchildren and 5 stepchildren and three step grandchildren and my Mom 87yrs old me 63 this year , the seeds have been sown !


john
john @johnc

i don't let it sex and life are more important


Jessica
Jessica @saldije12

@mikechelsea I took a pledge of purity before marriage so its kind of off limits for me but once I'm married I'm making up for lost time lol and psoriasis will NOT stop me haha!


Graham
Graham @grum

@allanncaz .... Have you bought a TV now?? ;)


Jessica
Jessica @saldije12

@mikechelsea thank you!


David Thomson
David Thomson @davidthomson

I feel quite fortunate as im getting older I only have two little patches on my legs, the winters a bummer though my face gets its usual beating


Ed
Ed @Mister

Patches of dry red flaky skin is always a mood killer, but when you are naked and you have dry patches of skin on your buttocks,etc. it is not exactly attractive even to yourself.


Wryshiel
Wryshiel @wryshiel

IDK but my partner does and dont care...Does care about me to take care of the Psoriasis and dont care about it when its time for bed war. lolz..he touch it coz its everywhere in my body..


Ann
Ann @ann3588

I find it really good that you all (mostly) have such a sense of humour. Me I sadly lacking as only suffered (badly) since Christmas. Have it dreadfully almost everywhere and very down with it. Sex...well hopefully it will resume..but at 64 I had been amazed it restarted with a new relationship but feel it may be at an end..I am lucky though have a great family and could have been worse....x


Ragazza
Ragazza @ragazza

@ Ann
Yes we do have a sense of humour because life can be very serious. Some have a lot of it ...some are still looking for it and some aren't getting the meaning of it. :-)))
Sorry about your Christmas present but glad about your new relation at 64.
I know it's hard but Psoriasis doesn't care if you are happy or down. It's better to pick yourself up, and start to get those flakes from your body... take a nice bath and moisture like crazy. If you are waiting til they take care of you..well you can wait a long time for that. Just start caring about yourself like you were a young child. Love yourself a lot!!!
By the way.. my mom divorced my dad at the age of 67 to go living with a man she knew when she was a young girl. They lived together until she died at 76. Sooo there still is a lot of things to do in life :-))))) Keep the faith and watch a bit what you eat and don't stress and stop thinking about what can happen. I'm done preaching :-))))))


dave keyes
dave keyes @weasel

unfortunately my partner has no interest in sex so its not a problem.


evella
evella @evella

It's doesn't bothered to my hubby. He loves me anyway.


Anita
Anita @anitalynn19

@ Jessica, I am with you sista! its been 3 years since I have given myself the gift of purity for marriage and it has nothing to do with my P and everything to do my self worth! Its so nice to see that I am not the only one!


Grace
Grace @Grace

What sex life - the idea stresses me out.


SusieQ
SusieQ @susieq

It has never bothered my hubby as we were together pre psoriasis, I'm still me , I have chronic psoriasis but to hubby the psoriasis doesn't matter it's our love that we have for each other that is more than skin deep .
Enjoy the intimacy
I suppose it must be harder for younger people just starting out in relationships, it's hard enough undressing in front of a new lover when your skin is fine ( will he/she like what they see) without the added pressure of having psoriasis. My heart goes out to you all. I'm very lucky that I've been with my hubby almost 40 years xx


Suzie
Suzie @Ratgirl

Doesn't seem to bother hubby but his eye sight is not great without his glasses !!!
The arthritis though .....affects positions. Need an understanding partner when your hips & knees are bad. Nothing worse than them thinking it is cries of pleasure when in fact your joints are killing you!


nonhlanhla
nonhlanhla @nonhlanhla

depending on how bad my psoriasis is


Jessica
Jessica @saldije12

@Anita! Yesssss! Thats awesome!


David
David @DavidBorrill

I've studied sex therapy and it's amazing the affect something like psorasis can have on sexual intimacy. Can cause all kinds of problems! In both males and females :(


Caitlin
Caitlin @caitlin

Sometimes it's embarrassing when you have to dust off the bed after getting amourous. And having it on your foof is never comfortable. Ended up being sex free for a couple of months because of it being so bad once.


Claire
Claire @mamaclaire

Currently, I'm only having sex with myself and I'm much more interested in the orgasm than my psoriasis. However, it would be great to have a partner again someday. Time will tell how that works out!


Suzie
Suzie @Ratgirl

Well put Claire ...an empowered female. Wishing you well in finding someone in the future.


 john,Hulk
john,Hulk @chewbacca

psoriasis on private parts can be an issue,more pain than gain,probably a lot people avoid it for that reason maybe


Madjam66
Madjam66 @madjam66

My hubby is afraid if we have sex, it might trigger back my P. Is it posible, coz i still have it on my thighs ang legs, but its fading. He dont want to see my sleepless night again so he stop making love to me.


Suzie
Suzie @Ratgirl

Have you asked him why he thinks it will trigger an attack? There is no evidence that I am aware of that suggests that sex will exceberate psorasis. In my experience the closeness that you experience & the intimacy far outweighs any negatives. For others it is different.


jay
jay @robe

frustrated


jay
jay @robe

irritated and frustrated.


Karen
Karen @karen66

I'm getting adverse psriosis last year or so even in my ears. Normally all over rest of my body. I'm on beta blinkers since heart attack 8 years ago and it's come up in some awfully sore places. Anyone else feel same?


PsoRhymus
PsoRhymus @psorhymus

It makes me less confident, but I get over it by remembering that I can't let my wife be unsatisfied.


April Nepomuceno
April Nepomuceno @aprilnepomuceno

Having 2kids, psoriasis doesnt affect to my husband.. Ilove him so much and I'm the one taking care of him with natural remedy..


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

If You have the right person beside - no problems at all.

My girlfriend and I are making cream treatment of My skin as a masssage and generaly foreplay :) and the sex is phenomenal after that.

Sex level - PSORIASIS :D



Salvador
Salvador @salvador

i.i don't have a psoriasis problem.i joint her to hepl people who can have this psoriasis problem.


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

@rhenmar... You can very easy turn that into a sex game ;)

She's insecure about her weight, I'm about my skin but when we realize that all those things are not important THEN we started to have a good sex life.

And that life is very good :)


Brian
Brian @brian612

mine as gone 100% now


Judith
Judith @theweeblondie

It doesn't anymore! It used to make me insecure as I had it in my pubic and groin area - now I just say it's not contagious and get on with it! At the end of the day they are having sex with me and not my psoriasis!



Psoriatic4good

 john,Hulk
john,Hulk @chewbacca

hello shiela why are you angry with what i wrote please ? judith said its about her not her skin so thats so true ? :)


Karen
Karen @karen66

Hubby doesn't care so sex is ok, he fucks my body and not my skin problem


 john,Hulk
john,Hulk @chewbacca

i get an angry for being polite and you say it as it is karen , i saw that i laugh me socks off,thats so blunt haha :)


 john,Hulk
john,Hulk @chewbacca

everybody angry with me today,whats matter work tomorrow or something,i cant believe,,everyone wants be angry with me then i might aswell leave here,has no effect on my life :)


Andrew
Andrew @balushiuk

What is"sex life"


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

When Your psor dosen't affect You ;)


Susan
Susan @Susie

Psoriasis has no impact of my sex life..Husband loves me and all my faults..


Andrew Steven
Andrew Steven @auzarragajr

It really affects.. I can't get naked at all.. Only the upper part will be naked.. tsk tsk


Mandy
Mandy @mandy

I havnt got a partner at the moment ,,, but if i did id get undressed in the dark and i couldnt, let him touch where i


Suzie
Suzie @Ratgirl

That is so sad Mandy. Believe it or not few people are perfect or confident with their bodies. If it is not their hair line it will be stretch marks, or saggy boobs or flabby stomach. We all here just have scabby skin (okay I have saggy bits as well!!) . If you embrace the wonderfullness of Mandy (cause you are awesome) ...any guy will believe it too. Hold your head up high, leave the lights on & I strut your amazingness.


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

Suzie I really love You :)


Suzie
Suzie @Ratgirl

Feeling is mutual P4G ....your wit & incredibly fab way of looking at things is ACE. Love U 2


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

Glad to hear that :)

Let's get things straight - sex is importmant.

In psor life very important indeed.


Kay
Kay @nuggetsmcr

Its so nice to read that many of you have understanding partners :)


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

I don't agree with that because I think that the best sexual organ is our brain ;)

And if psor get's into Your brain too much then You're sex life is going to suffer.

And You will be sad.

And You're psor will get worse :)


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

I agree that love and care is important, very important, but I think that that is the premises that lead to sex but at the end the pleasure is only in Your head ;)


John
John @johnwick

I'm married. Arguing over whose turn it is to put the bins out is a bigger passion killer than the psoriasis.


Suzie
Suzie @Ratgirl

Gotta agree with P4G that your brain is where all the sex happens especially as a woman. If the brain is not engaged then you can be 'playing' for a really long time & getting nowhere fast. Caring & love is important but it is the art of love making that elevates the relationship. Studies show that couples who do not have sex although they may be close ...do not share the level of intimacy that sexual partners (obviously these are long term) do. It is not the orgasms (although great)...it is the special bond (skin or in our case manky skin on skin). The trusting, the sharing & the total 1 to 1 time.


Psoriatic4good

Suzie
Suzie @Ratgirl

I am actually a fab dinner party guest as I know a load of rubbish that although is no use to anyone,is actually really interesting. I blame Sky personally for putting so many useless documentaries on!


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

Suzie, You know I like You a lot :)


Suzie
Suzie @Ratgirl

Ditto P4G my fabulous forum witty writing partner. Things would be very dull without you x


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

Ok we have x and we add se, and we are fine :)


Suzie
Suzie @Ratgirl

P4G ...now THAT made me chuckle. Very funny



Abe
Abe @abeybaby

Once I had a partner kiss the psoriasis on my leg the first time we had sex. It meant a lot.


Psoriatic4good
Psoriatic4good @psoriatic4good

My gf does that a lot, and it's really nice feeling.

I mean not like she has any other option :)



Patrick

Needyou
Needyou @needyou

Well I am still virgin ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜Ž so it's doesn't affect me at all .โœŒ๐Ÿ˜‰


Ragazza
Ragazza @ragazza

@ Deleted account, I'm fine....but have nothing to write for the moment. Need to give more information about my 2 Biological treatments I had years ago. It would be better if one Dermatologist calls the other one to get some proof... but no... the patient is included in the administration :D
As soon as my futur change I will tell you.... :-))))


Mary
Mary @mary1967

I dont have one


 john,Hulk
john,Hulk @chewbacca

sorry to hear that mary,what have you tried for your skin, do you have psoriatic arthritis aswell?i hadan outbreak last winter and now its clearing,near clear,



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