31 May 19:31
getting into a serious relationship.. afraid of rejection if I open up about psoriasis?
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31 May 20:03
Hi Roisin, that must be hard for you.
Maybe you can see the psoriasis as a natural way of pre selection of who is worth time and love.
31 May 20:50
A person who loves you won't see your psoriasis! If he reject you, he is not worth keeping anyway!
31 May 21:54
I’ve experienced this in past relationships, when mine gets bad it effects me from head to toe, my GF at the time I was diagnosed decided to distance herself from me as she didn’t like it. Needless to say we are no longer together, however I met the right girl who didn’t see the psoriasis, just the person underneath and after 6 years together we married last month ! The right person won’t be bothered by your psoriasis
01 Jun 06:12
What a beautiful lady you are Roisin. A beautiful open face. Nothing hidden (I'm not talking about P by the way). I can see you are a humble nice person and have so much love to give and if this person can't see it, then he/she is shallow. I know how you feel. Get to know this person first before you get too intimate. See where you stand with them and then decide what you are going to do. OR. Spill the beans. Tell this person you have P and get it over with. It's going to be painful to see the rejection in their eyes but what IF it doesn't bother them? Good luck Roisin.
01 Jun 14:24
I think I know exactly what you mean. At least you don't have to open up about psoriasis all in one go? Maybe you can do it in steps and see how you go? You could just start out casually mentioning something about skin, and then follow it up however it goes. Terrifying though, for sure.
01 Jun 23:06
I guess the best time to speak about it is when it happens naturally. We don’t have to express our condition while getting to know each other and our likes/dislikes. I’ve mentioned it while saying stories about random things that it has lead to that on its natural course. It’s an autoimmune condition .... etc.. Im even funnny about it “ my immune system hates itself and I overproduce skin cells, so it shows as red and dry skin, no biggie! “ there’s no need to speak about it upfront, you are not psoriasis , you HAVE psoriasis. The same way you wouldn’t discuss all the things you HAVE as in materialistic things or what not.
02 Jun 00:45
If he truly loves you, it shouldn't matter.
05 Jun 07:21
After my divorce i was nervous as hell about that too but, my boyfriend did not even seem to notice much less care. He loved me very much! Now I’m dealing with his death and I haven’t even began to start wanting to date however I can totally relate to your fear. Just take a deep breath and face it head on. You got this sister!
05 Jun 07:25
I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend Heather. You are a positive lady and you will get through this.
05 Jun 07:28
Thank you. Yeah it’s the most bizarre and painful thing ever but, they just arrested his killer so now it’s time to heal! Inside and out! Not just for me but, others too 💙 I appreciate the support very much
07 Jun 09:50
Heather, you are amazing. What you have been through and are going through is an inspiration to me 💙
07 Jun 15:58
Gosh Heather I'm so sorry! I will keep you in prayer!
08 Jun 05:18
The world lost a good one that’s for sure. I’m still close with his Momma so that helps. Knowing and loving him made me a better person even if I didn’t get to keep him.
08 Jun 07:21
The memories will always stay in your heart. His memories are as dear today as in the hour he passed away. You're a strong lady Heather and I can see you loved him very much but now, you have to concentrate on You. You've already taken the first step and you are getting there. I'm glad you are still close with his mom and that helps a lot. You have to be strong at all times to stay strong through hard times. Everything depends on your attitude. Think about everything good you have in your life, and it will inspire you to fight and stay strong through hard times! A love like what you had with your husband is very rare. Good luck my girl and everything will be okay.
08 Jun 07:24
Hey Roisin, Just a follow up to find out if you are still okay with regards to the relationship and Psoriasis? How is your P doing?
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