Michelle
...feeling happy Michelle @michelle1021

Looks, relationships, strangers

Having Psoriasis, do you find it difficult to approach the opposite sex (clear skins)?

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18 responses

Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

People who have psoriasis are often the harshest critics of their own body, which makes everyday life that much more difficult. It is good to know that many people with psoriasis have found a partner who accepts them as they are but by being single, how do you approach the clear skins?
When I meet someone (a man), I don't even think about my P at that moment but should I see he is looking at me (as in really looking) I shy away and the first thing on my mind is my Psoriasis. I have never approached a man out of own will. I am confident like hell but I don't have the guts to go and approach a man and ask him out. I blame it on shyness lol.


Ruben
Ruben @ruben

I find it difficult without, so with is even more difficult. But don't really have it in my face (a tiny bit in one eyebrow) so...


Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

I don't have it on my face either. Only on my ankles but still, I find it difficult. P is always on my subconscious although I never show it. :)


Rosey
Rosey @sue2023

Difficult,as on eyelids,i look like crunchy monster lol,and hands ,I cover face light makeup and face creates even more scales for doing so,so apart from a recent meet up I'm not bothering with men atm


Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

We have a product called 'Rooibos tea' and many skincare products have shown great success on P sufferers. I'm not sure if you can find it your side Sue.?


Rosey
Rosey @sue2023

Pretty much over trying , doing one thing at a time,cial tar,flaxmeal etc all new p calm not angry, a m all-over,using bad toxic cream,done wonders for head but is sensitive,keep on with recent before I try more,is a real difference ,


Ann
Ann @ann8680

I've got psoriasis very bad on my elbows I wont go outside with my arms bare. Too self conscious. But the minute I get indoors I put on a short sleeve top


Heather
Heather @heather0611

I do not approach men and never have. I was married for 13 years. When we met and married i was almost 100% clear. As i got older my psoriasis got worse and he didn’t care. When I was with my former Fiancé he pursued me. I was mostly clear then as well. As our relationship progressed he cheated and I went back to college then my skin went crazy. He accepted me. My most recent relationship was with Logan. He pursued me and I was mostly clear(about 90%). He adored ALL of me. When he was murdered my skin went insane. Now I’m about 65-70% clear and no where near ready to date! With all that being said when men approach me I seem to become much more aware of my psoriasis because it’s definitely one of my biggest insecurities! With my experiences I believe that a good partner will not care about the psoriasis or see them as ugly as we often do.


Ann
Ann @ann8680

I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 years and he says that my body is beautiful. That's why I love him 😀


Susan
Susan @godcares

Michelle I think there is something inside of me and other's that just will NOT let psoriasis define us! It was also something I had to deal with in my teens and until I met my ex husband. Of course I was self conscious but I refused to let those thoughts take over. Maybe I'm stubborn. Not sure but I always knew psoriasis was the lesser part of me. I remember when boyfriends would kiss me and put their hand on my belly or back while kissing I would casually say "Oh... That's psoriasis" and keep on. "Not catchy"... I have never been on my own ever, except after my divorce and I am not a hot babe.
I'm fun and confident and I think that was more attractive than my ugly psoriasis. Seriously, most men don't care. The mature ones anyway don't. The men who want the hot body and they have all this testosterone going on never were my cup of tea. Men have the same trouble I guess meeting a woman if they have psoriasis. Seriously... We are too hard on ourselves. It's just skin! We focus on that, cellulite, wrinkles, scars, saggy boobs, hair.... Yikes. All of you are beautiful and if you have a kind heart, then open yourselves up because you will meet another with a kind heart.


SimonLFC1976
SimonLFC1976 @simonlfc1976

Hi Michelle, I have a rare version of Psoriatic Arthritis which is also linked to sepsis. Sometimes my skin does play up but I find if I'm open about it then generally people are accepting. I find it more difficult explaining away the pain side of things on bad days when people think "Oh, you don't look ill..." etc


Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

Some people are accepting Simon, I agree but then you get the ignorant one's. The patience us sufferers sometimes have amazes me. :)


Mark
Mark @mark

Hell yeah... But it is what it is. And i am wondering.. Anyone here try high dose D3 to try to clear? Talking over 30k iu a day.


Alexandros
Alexandros @alexandros

Hi Michelle. I find it easier approaching the same sex lol!


 john,Chewweeeeee
john,Chewweeeeee @chewbacca

Hello Michelle, i think the shyness, is more of a problem with me too,I dont approach woman generally, I need to get to know people thats the way i am,psoriasis dosnt come into my mind really, my last girlfriend who i was with for over 6 years approached/pursued me and thats happend a few times like that with others in the past,I generally dont approached woman, not consciously anyway i dont think? , i think it should come naturally if theres interest, well what i think anyway,.i have been lucky that i have been accepted by clear skins with no problem thank you :)


Breda
Breda @breda4

Hi everybody I have head psoriasis and I only have psoriasis down one side of my body left side some on my back a lot on one buttock a bit on my thigh and the back of my leg it's ugly looking and with all this hot weather we're getting I was to embarrassed to go swimming or sunbathing and I couldn't imagine myself getting naked in front of anyone I think my love life will have to be confined to the battery operated option for the moment


 john,Chewweeeeee
john,Chewweeeeee @chewbacca

I am sure you are not ugly Breda, Someone will love you for who you are one day,Sorry about all this i wish you well Breda


Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

I agree with John Breda and this coming from a man. You will find someone special and you won't feel embarrassed by getting naked in front of him. You might walk naked permanently lol. There was a time when I was embarrassed to get dressed in front of my ex (many years ago), but he made me feel beautiful. Stay positive and don't let your P get you down :)



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