21 Aug 08:18
Looks, coping, strangers
How do you deal with people staring?
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21 Aug 08:26
Don't bother anymore , if they stare I ignore it if they ask I explain it
21 Aug 08:43
They are just jealous!
21 Aug 10:31
Im to busy to notice.
21 Aug 11:44
Stare back. 😳
21 Aug 12:02
Pretty much like Chris, I don't really give a s@#t although yes, if they ask in a respectful way I'll explain.
21 Aug 13:18
21 Aug 13:24
Don’t even notice anymore. If they have issues about it that’s their problem not mine! If asked I am happy to explain but otherwise not interested.
21 Aug 14:53
Just ignore them, unless otherwise it very intimidating , then I politely say ,it's psoriasis and you have nothing to worries , its not contagious but its ugly,
21 Aug 14:56
Exactly like Margaret, smile.
21 Aug 15:06
As I said in another post, tell them it's leprosy and ask if they want a closer look. Then you'll see how fast a human being can run backwards.
21 Aug 15:37
I didn’t give it a second thought back then. Nothing to do with me.
21 Aug 17:07
Into last part of phototherapy psoriasis ALL Gone, no more staring. Long hard journey but all clear now
21 Aug 17:11
Cunning thinking Kate :)
21 Aug 18:02
It's hard to deal with the stares but remember that this is not you, its only a response by others to something they don't understand. I realized that even after I was completely clear, people still stare for one reason or another. So, don't take it personally. Very few people understand Psoriasis.
21 Aug 18:48
I work in the health care sector, and we have to be bare from the elbows down and tie our hair up 😞 I've had to leave the hospital setting because of this. I had one patient say that she didn't want me to touch her incase it was catching! That was the last straw for me. So now I'm working for much less money in nursing homes as they understand why I wear a long sleeved top under my uniform. So I'm also melting in the heat. I still feel embarrassed by the looks and comments, even though I have had psoriasis for 32 years. I even cover up in front of my family and friends. But that's just me and my lack of confidence. This summer has been awful. I've not even gone to the beaches that are on my doorstep as I have it from top to toe including my toe nails and I don't want to embarrass my family.
21 Aug 19:38
I ignore them but am still aware that they have looked. I can’t remember any remission since mine started in 1988.
21 Aug 19:55
I feel for people who have "P" so bad that they feel embarrassed in a workplace or family or other.. I had a bad breakout last winter--but now Im pretty good still have a few itchy areas and just using lemon to rub those areas and the itch is gone almost instantly..but Im always still looking for a cure.. there are so many new products out there at Health stores and Markets that might be even more helpful.
21 Aug 22:04
In a long que I will tell them I got the pest . They run !!!
21 Aug 23:25
Say hello, that usual stops it
21 Aug 23:53
I smile ,I actually square my shoulder's and stand Taller...and I think to myself..."Hey your a Runway Model Baby" and then I strike my Ballet pose and "Chow Bella" :>)
21 Aug 23:56
In the words of Prince "I could be the Most Beautiful Girl in the World"
22 Aug 12:16
I stare back
22 Aug 12:28
I don't look at ppl anymore,apart from work of course,am aware they stare,had too many comments to even give pple a eye contact
22 Aug 13:04
Sharon I get you,know how hard it is,was the comments that reduced me to tears ,was the straw as you say,if I was just a bit on elbows , wouldn't be a problem,but all over ,arms,face etc,I get how society wore you down,hang in there,did my head in too,
22 Aug 19:00
I stare them back
22 Aug 19:17
Sometimes I deal with it very well and other times not well at all. When my skin is fairly good my mood is good and my confidence is strong even when it is not clear, but on the positive direction. When it is flaring, I feel self conscious and sad about what people might think... but I try to make myself keep my skin out, so it can get fresh air and to "normalise" the condition.
22 Aug 19:29
dependent on my mood lol, i once told someone that was staring that if they look any harder they will go blind, or worse getting as well lol , just saying not the best thing to say to people, i dont let it get to me any more hey, but if shes good looking i blow a kiss and they blush lol how i met my lady by the way :) :D
23 Aug 06:52
If it is a quick stare I ignore it, if they continue to stare I stare back and say can I help you seems like to want to ask me something. It depends on how they stare, one lady said she stared because it looks like what her husband has and we ended up exchanging information. If they are rude they get an earful.
23 Aug 11:42
Why do many have a hostile attitude?
Try to approach it positively.
You are the one who has to continue with your thoughts and state of mind.
23 Aug 12:02
Unfortunately there are those who have no care of how they embarrass you in public, as if you don't feel embarrassed enough. One guy even claimed to have healing powers and immediately started praying for me in an isle of a big shopping centre. Not that I don't believe in the power or prayers but he was confident there and then I was healed! Not can I pray for you. One lady embarrassed me in front of my husband in a restaurant, I lost my appetite there and then as the patrons around us kept staring. Another grabbed my hand and interrogated me in a local shop. The list goes on and on. It is like asking the partners of a disabled person what is wrong with them! For example if you are lame you are not deaf or blind. And if you are deaf or blind you are not stupid by default. If there is one thing in life that irks me it is people who are insensitive to how they make others feel. Not even a person who is HIV positive has to disclose their status, why am I obliged to tell people what is wrong with me if I don't want to. Act and ask nice and I will tell you. If you are rude I will tell you to go get manners and then ask me again. It is stressful enough dealing with P.
23 Aug 15:28
Very well expressed, thank you!
23 Aug 16:58
I understand. Of course you should not let them walk over you. Yet it is a shame that you are so hostile. Thinking in advance that people will insult you. I can’t walk around stressed out like that. I prefer to do this the other way around. I open up. When someone is getting to hurt me, it's time enough to defend myself. I am not naïve. I too have seen enough, but I do not allow myself to be restricted.
23 Aug 17:42
Frankly I guess I don't do shame...I keep a positive outlook on all of life..even God has a sense of Humor Afterall He Created a Platypus..right...I am actually so intriguing people Follow me with their eyes...:>) Love you all...Life is not waiting for you..Life has Its own terms :>)
23 Aug 19:13
Show some more skin while posing :) I need to look good for my P ;)
24 Aug 10:27
@Millionways Sorry but I am well within my rights to not let anyone be rude to me nothing to be ashamed of. Most people are willing to learn and accept once you tell them what P is. Luckily those who are downright rude are few and far in between. Mostly I don't think what others will say or think I just get on with life. That said we have the advantage of being used to it the general uniformed public doesn't, I will take that into consideration. Again we have our good and bad days, we are allowed to cope better on our good days and not so much on our bad days.
24 Aug 10:58
I’m always covered up when I’m out. This summer has been a bit of a nightmare with the heat but now it’s cooling down I don’t look so out of place.
24 Aug 14:44
Get where your comming from Jane
24 Aug 14:57
Well said Erica,some don't understand why we cover,its easier than dealing with the comments
24 Aug 23:58
I use to cover mine up all the time.I felt so ashamed of it, making it worse until one day i stopped worrying and i dont bother. people will always stare no matter what you have its just like there are looking outfit. if they ask i will always inform them and if they have nasty things to say just shows how theyre as a person. we should all be proud of ourselves for being able to cope with something so irritating and horrible
25 Aug 07:14
Erica, is it okay to send you a dm?
26 Aug 01:05
i stare right back
28 Aug 13:18
i ask them if something is wrong, most of the time they stop
02 Jan 15:13
Hi still struggling with flare-up and itchyness drives me crazy ,don't know what triggers it
03 Jan 05:42
Hi Charmaine. Well with all the rain that we are getting in Jhb at the moment my skin is flaky but not itchy but I think it might also be from all the crappy food I've been eating these past few days. Have you tried changing your diet? I've been drinking my turmeric water again this week to get rid of my inflammation. My PsA is much better now again so I'm a happy lady.
03 Jan 16:02
When I live in Johannesburg my P was not so itchy I did not realise until I came back to the UK that I had it. Now scratch scratch
04 Jan 06:00
Sorry to hear Martha. Yes Johannesburg has a dry sunny climate and England is wet. Whenever I used to go to Durban or Capetown, I itched like I had fleas which is why I don't really go there for a holiday. Have you found something that works for the itching?
04 Jan 07:19
Actually that's what I've found. My ears were worse in Joburg but not itchy. They have totally healed in Cape Town but are so itchy all the time
04 Jan 07:23
I'm glad it healed Bev. Sheesh, we just can't win with P. Which one would you prefer more? The itch or the flakes? Difficult one. I really don't know which one I'll choose. maybe the itching?
04 Jan 13:44
Now that it's cleared I've been able to have short hair. Instead of always having to cover my ears with longer hair. So yes itchy is preferable for me. Except in the middle of the night when it's really itchy I sometimes say arrrgh I'd rather have the flakes etc Lol
07 Jan 06:23
You. Look. Absolutely. STUNNING Bev! Beautiful you are. :)
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