17 Dec 09:07
Coping, healthcare system, money
Well how did anyone go being on the drugs that are for us desperate ppl ,had so many side effects and no clearance,2 years natural,its bad and no idea why ,wasting my time with dermatologist,but hey his The only man in my life
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17 Dec 09:11
Haha,but stupid thing is I need another specialist,as this one has nothing, a s in set up , now got to pay for another hard to explain
17 Dec 11:25
Was looking forward to get some relief with medication. Also been thinking about light therapy at home.
17 Dec 12:39
This just sucks
17 Dec 22:02
It does. You just get everything under a reasonable control, let your guard down and it’s back again. So frustrating.
18 Dec 05:08
Maybe living in South Africa is good for me. I've never been for any treatment. Last seen a derm/dr more than 20yrs ago. I just check what I eat and get some sun. Avoid humid areas and try not to stress about stupid things.
18 Dec 21:07
My stress comes from my husband and his alcohol abuse, I try to not let it affect me, but that is very hard. He doesn’t get physically abusive, but demanding and emotional abuse to some degree. I also did eat a couple of things that affected me. Never again. We need to be very focused on what we consume.
19 Dec 05:23
Julie, I know what you are talking about. My ex husband was an alcoholic and emotionally it affect me very bad. Like your husband, he wasn't abusive but I couldn't stand the alcohol abuse. He never had time for our children, nor me. I had to do everything in the house. I cut the lawn, fixed what needed to be fixed in the house, grocery shopping, taking kids to school, clean the house etc etc etc. No help from him because he was always drunk. It will affect you without you knowing. Staying strong is easy to say and possible but, one can't go on like that. we do learn how to work around it but it still affects you as a person and your health. Emotional abuse is the worst thing someone can do to another. I don't like bullies. Emotionally or Physically. I've learned since childhood how to defend myself and do not allow people like that in my life. Emotional effects of bullying is in the genes unfortunately and one needs to seek help where that is concern. Not everyone is the same and some know how to deal with it. Others, well, they become bullies themselves.
Try stay eating healthy although its difficult. You are right, we need to be very focused on what we consume. Good luck and my thoughts are with you Julie. You seem like a strong lady and I know you can get through this. :)
19 Dec 21:21
Thank you Michelle. My husband has been to rehab a few times, but the sobriety doesn’t last long. This time before he went to get help, I told him enough, I can’t do it anymore. He was scared I would leave him so got the help. He started drinking spirits again and we have had a few rough days. I told him again that we can’t go back there, I can’t do it anymore. So far he is not having the spirits, just a couple of beers. We are going to our sons for Christmas and need him to be better. We will see how that goes.
20 Dec 05:28
You know what Julie, I've learned that the less you worry, the less complicated life becomes, but in a relationship like yours and what I had (had two of them. Yeah I need help. lol), it doesn't work. How can you NOT worry. You believe them when they say they will stop but deep down you know it's not going to be the case. Being an alcoholic must be very difficult. It change you as a person. It change the way your family treats you. Respect is not valued anymore and love disappears. Sometimes you have to stop worrying, wondering and doubting. Have faith that things will work out, maybe not how you planned but just how its meant to be. You husband should try that. Have faith in himself and in you. You stand by him, support him, love him maybe believe him, but he has to take the first step. Your Psoriasis might even improve when there are no abuse in the relationship. Your crappy food will take a hike and be replaced with something good. You will be happy again and so will your husband and kids too. Inspire your husband. Tell him how much you believe in him. Tell him how strong he is and you know he can overcome the addiction. Tell him that he was not created to live depressed, to be selfish and ignorant. He was created to be victorious. Tell him that he is your husband and you love him and you believe in him.
Julie, It's not going to be easy but it is possible to change. My ex husband is a recovering alcoholic and he is doing great for more than 10 years now. I am so proud of him. We are still good friends and what I've seen is that he needs people to believe in him and to trust him.
I wish you and your hubby well and a wonderful Christmas for your family. :)
20 Dec 21:02
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