Debbie
...feeling sad Debbie @debbie1983

Coping

new lady startedat work first thing she said to me was whats wrong with your scalp i was so taken aback by it my co-workers know i have psoriosis so its not a big deal i feel very self conscious alot but i was nearly in tears at her bluntness

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Dionna
Dionna @dionna

Omg Debbie I’m really sorry this happened to you.I experienced this on my first day of work last year. I work in a pharmacy and the product specialist wanted to demonstrate their item on us and she was like omg why is your scalp like this? Then I just said I have psoriasis,and she made it sound like I didn’t take care of my scalp properly. I wear short sleeves to work as I am given a uniform, whenever customers comes in,they will say what happened to your hand? Accident? Burn mark? Were you abused? My dad’s friend once asked if my parents are abusing me at home! Having scalp psoriasis is the worse! I just lose confidence and feel less beautiful! As ladies,hair is our pride but the scalp though 😩 I really wish someone comes up with a cure!


Debbie
Debbie @debbie1983

@Dionna i know i can hide all my other psoriosis away but scalp psoriasis isnt so easy to deal with having a bad flare just now and her comment just threw me a little .like u say hopefully get a cure someday x


Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

Debbie, that is not bluntless. That is rude and inconsiderate of her and it shows that she has a complex of her own. I'm sorry you had to get this from her but I know you will get through this as well. People are very cruel. Only strong minded people will never look down on your or even insult you for that matter. Stay strong :)


Debbie
Debbie @debbie1983

Thanks Michelle i felt stupid just caught of guard felt embarrassed lucky for me my coworkers are all understanding and seen i was upset by it. Felt stupid letting it bother me x


Susan
Susan @godcares

Awww Debbie. Sorry to hear that. I guess one thing that helped me back when I had psoriasis on the scalp, or anywhere for that matter, is a quote I heard. "Anything anyone says about you, to your face or behind your back, is none of your business! It's all about them!" Hope that empowers you somewhat. It did me. Blessings to you always. I do have a suggestion of something I was given many years ago that works wonders on the scalp and fast too! Just message me as I can't post a medication this way. Thanks.


Dionna
Dionna @dionna

Yeahhhh my scalp psoriasis have covered my whole scalp now and I can’t part my hair a certain way anymore. I soooo understand your situation 😩 I’m going through it!


Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

I agree with Susan, It's all about the people. They feel insecure about themselves which is why they target you. Don't ever feel stupid for letting it bother you. We can feel confident for weeks and then some ignorant person will come and strip you from it. Do not show her that she has hit a tender spot. Get up, walk straight, head up and show her you are the girl. You're brave, don't forget it.


Erica
Erica @Eri

I have learned that some people just have no filters, they speak first and think later. It is possible that she meant no harm but never learned it is not nice to put someone on the spot. Just as I have learned that not all who seems nice and concerned are in fact. You might just find she will be one of your supporters at the office in future, hopefully having learned that she caused you some tears. And Michelle is right, don't feel stupid we have all been there. One moment on top of the word with all the right funny answers and then that one person sneaks up and hit you in the stomach by figure of speech.


Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

Exactly Erica and welcome back!


Rita
Rita @rita

I agree with all the above comments but it’s still an embarrassing moment. When I worked in an office, I would wear white blouses/tops almost every day so that any flakes would not show. A cure would be wonderful!


Lindakay1948
Lindakay1948 @lindakay1948

Honey you could always wear a wig, one of those breathable wigs, too...she will probably become your best friend she just made a stupid slip of the mind..hugs darlin'


Dionna
Dionna @dionna

I just feel that people around us are not aware of what P is and how it affects us especially being a woman. We tend to doubt ourselves a lot and have insecurities hitting us at some point. It’s hard. It is really hard. I can’t tell you to ignore those comments because if I were in your situation I would react the same way as you are right now. We gotta keep trying ok?


 john,Chewweeeeee
john,Chewweeeeee @chewbacca

Hello Dionna ,Yes i agree with insecurities with P, been there worn the flakes, Woman or man , it makes no difference, I have been through embarrassing moments in the past with P and wanted , wished i would die in my sleep,, I had a hard time as a teenager hiding it, scared girlfriends would notice it smell my creams and all that , My lady has P and i dont see it to be honest as i see her , from an outside point of view, some are very curious about it, some can see it as dirty, i know about that too,Truth is, i see people with dry skin and i see it differently, those people probably wash a lot, i know how my skin looks as i wash a lot, ,Last weekend i left one day without washing and my skin looked good with all the natural oils in it, as soon as i washed , skin dried up, I am always on flake watch where my face is concerned, i wash at night so the oils get in and check for face
flakes in the morning,Its my life with this,If there was an island called flakey island, we would all fit in and not worry about it,I try to think theres worse out there but we are all different with this i know , some bad some mild and in between,I never used to talk about it, since 2 years now i do,people are interested in it , maybe because i am confident to talk about it now and people like that , I used to be so ashamed of it , someone see, i just feel like nothing, It does work to talk , educate if you will :)


Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

So true John. Talk does help. Many moons ago I was ashamed of my P but not anymore. Now whenever somebody talks about going on a diet, I see it as an opportunity to explain Psoriasis to them. With this new job I have, lots of people are aware of Psoriasis as they know somebody with it. They don't look down on me or pity me. I guess if they have to see my ankles they might see me differently? Ah well, most of them know so I'm good with that.
Dionna, believe me, men feel the same as us about Psoriasis. It affects their image to the world as well although they don't show it often. Thing is, they can't hide it with make up or stockings etc, they just have to go as they are.
My love has P too and although he and I seems confident, us both are weary about where we will go on holiday and what we should wear. Shirt or no shirt etc. But, at least we have each other to support and cheer on whenever we might feel uncomfortable. We do have our fun with our P as well of course. lol. show me yours and I'll show you mine. :)
Thing is, we should try not to let comments from non flakers get us down. It's not easy I know but being self centered sometimes does help. You protect yourself from others.


 john,Chewweeeeee
john,Chewweeeeee @chewbacca

Sounds good Michelle, I show you mine if you show me yours lol :) Yes it is easier with 2 flakers as a couple i agree :) Give daily flake reports , oooh look at that one and look at this one, sounds kinda kinky lol, yes good fun :)


Lou
Lou @lou60

One day I was swimming and a lady pulled her child away from me saying”you might get that stuff.” I politely told the mother I wasn’t contagious.


 john,Chewweeeeee
john,Chewweeeeee @chewbacca

Apparently this happened a lot when i was child my stepmother told me years ago as i wouldnt remember i was so young though i do remember some things with this at that time ,Parents pulling their children away and looking like i was filth,Only the other day, a guy at work was worried about a mark on his hand,i lifted my elbow and said you got problems with that? check this bad boy out lol,he then started talking about eczema which i think is related,another form of psoriasis in my opinion,:)


Jan
Jan @janthegran

I would suggest she read up on this subject. I mist admit I was rather surprised when my daughter developed it. The I did in later years....sculp....a nightmare! Ignorance is hurtful. Tactless brains even worse! Hugs!



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