lisa
...feeling alone lisa @misslisalou

Coping

psoriosis really bad got dumped new years day after nearlly a year together,and my youngest daughters dad taking me to court for custody in a deep depression too

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Chrisb
Chrisb @chrisb

Don't give up ! There must be organisations out there that could help you fight the court case to keep your daughter and I'm sure once that's settled your psoriasis will improve, you've just got to believe in yourself to get through this


Lindakay1948
Lindakay1948 @lindakay1948

Lisa I know a little something about depression and being dumped and lack of confidence and how it all connects with our being able to connect to those we love dearly. Psorasis is multi-facetted defeater. I am telling you that you MUST dig deep inside yourself to dig out these spaces to grow who you are,its not easy and we aren't perfect at it..find a womans group anything my Darling go to whatever measures you must to get over this...I hate to admit to myself that the stress that triggers my Psorsis makes me irritable but it does,or even that I am the one that usually pushes others away..I do...so my darling find a safe place,a group of women,no men allowed so that you can let everything just Fly verbally..I also have a Kicking box..and I punch it go to your ex husband talk to him honestly nothing between you can be perfect but make sure this would not be in the best interest of your child..Lawyers like to create a grand chasm between us and our "HIM" just speak openly and honestly...you need a solid group of friends and family that will stand with you..make sure you invite him to a safe place to talk but you need to talk to him and uncloud your mind..write everything down you want to cover apologise if you need to do that as well but take some accounting of you and then follow through Hugs dear heart if you want to rant come back and rant but try not to over think any of this..be straight up and straight forward men aren't complicated find that spot inside that used to love him and appeal to His Logical side...this can't be good for your child...and if your stirred up its not good for you in front of her Love and blessings on your journeyxx


Michelle
Michelle @michelle1021

Hi Lisa. I'm very sorry about the break up but it might be a good thing for you? You are going through a difficult time now but with him being out of sight and soon out of mind, it will help you concentrating on the custody case. You don't need his negativity in your life right now. You need to stay focus and prepare for whatever may come your way. Stay strong. If you really want to present yourself as the better parent, then appear reasonable, learn to modulate your emotions and behavior and address any issue you may have that may otherwise be reasonably used against you. Demonstrate in showing what a wonderful mom you are. Nobody is perfect. No mother/father is perfect. We all have our faults and do things we regret but hey, we get up and move forward, no matter how tiring and difficult it is. Isn’t that what good parenting is about ? Managing ourselves in their interest. Stay focus on the problem ahead. Your ex is just that. An ex. You can do this Lisa. Put some faith in yourself and see how you rise :)


lisa
lisa @misslisalou

I love and adored my now ex, but his ex was too involved for my liking and i found out he is a liar no regard to how I'm feeling I've been so low I've been taking my child to school and going back to bed not eating crying all time. I've no friends to turn to sad eh the few i had don't bother with me now.I have tried to reach out as for my daughter's dad, I've tried to appeal to him to not drag me through the battle of court. but he just ignores me he said before it's not to spite me and has doing me a favour. ridiculous both my girls are my life support and i am theirs they have a nice home are loved and looked after he says it's my mental health n im not stable. yet everyday of our daughter's life I have brought her up n he knows she's looked after. I don't even go out and always put my youngest first. she is nearlly 12 and has special needs i am classed as her carer as she is classed as disabled. unforgivable. all your support guys helps a lot xx


lisa
lisa @misslisalou

I have booked me and my youngest a holiday to Portugal in March this is the first time I've been abroad on my own (only been once before abroad too) it was a last minute thing but I won't let my anxiety stop me as this will give me so much confidence in myself im trying not to think worse case scinario i need something to look forward to just hope their are other single parents too as i won't feel so strange then I am trying to fight this


KittyNibbles99
KittyNibbles99 @kittynibbles99

I know things seem bad right now but they will get better.
Depression is a tough cookie and the best thing to do it get some help.... contact The Talking Shop in Doncaster and self-refer for help... they are really great and run by NHS. X


Rosey
Rosey @sue2023

Lisa this sux,so hard hey,but your trip abroad will give you a focus,look after you,you are worth it! My saving grace was ,you are enough,what I have is enough ,and I am who I am


lisa
lisa @misslisalou

thankyou I've been through heartbreak before but I loved this guy completely just wish it would stop hurting but it's turning to anger now small Mercys this hurts a thousand times worse than ever before I told myself this was the last time I was going to trust staying on my own now need to grieve him


Rosey
Rosey @sue2023

Love hurts hey,ache and pain,it will get better,


Rosey
Rosey @sue2023

Find you again,that person you are before the pain and anger ,its there,you are worth it!


Clint
Clint @NJClint

Sorry that's rough it's not you don't believe that you have to fight for your rights don't let anyone run you over write notes to yourself every day so you get what you want to say down on paper then review it until you got it the way you want that will give you the upper hand also use lemon πŸ‹ on your psoriasis in the mean time....good luck πŸ€


lisa
lisa @misslisalou

thanks Clint I'm certainly going to fight for my daughter he has no grounds to do this and ive made an apointment for doctors for my mental health it took a lot to do that my skin problem isn't my priority at the moment although it's really bad no creams work I did try lemon but didn't improve


Clint
Clint @NJClint

Try using lemon πŸ‹ every few hours for a week you may be surprised



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lisa
lisa @misslisalou
Harworth, Doncaster, UK

hi all you beautiful people! I am a very proud mum to two beautiful girls (age 21 and 13) hoping to start my own business further down the line, i believe the simple life is the best life to live,one day!! lol..still struggling to accept p



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